Comments on: How To Get Over a Guy / Girl

By: Warren

Warren — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 06:50:59 +0000

Closing comments. For anyone who has a question or comment, please drop by the thread in the forum!

http://www.whatithinkabout.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2

By: Warren

Warren — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 06:50:00 +0000

@elesha: Hmmmm, it sounds like this guy is significant older than you, so the chances of you two getting married is really low anyway, so this was bound to happen at some point, better sooner than later right?

Since you went into this wanting to have fun, just realize that it’s been fun! There’s no official “relationship”… like as soon as you start doing something with someone, that’s a relationship. So you were looking for a “have fun together relationship”, and now that he’s stopped wanting to have fun, it’s the end of that. Just go right ahead and do some other things! Life is full of lots of fun stuff to do

By: Warren

Warren — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 06:41:19 +0000

@Iana: It sounds like you two are in love with each other. When he said that, he very likely has the same giddy “in love” feeling that you do. However, he has to move (from circumstances that seem like it’s out of his control – school?). When he says it’s hard, he is refering to the “missing you urges”. He wants to hug you and you want to be in his arms, but because you are apart, neither of you can get that satisfaction. It sounds like he misses you a lot though. As to what to do, that’s always up to you.

By: elesha

elesha — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 01:45:12 +0000

hi, i met i guy 4 months ago. We started flirting, which turned into texting. We both decided we just wanted fun, especially with him only being split up from his 10 year marriage. I knew it was rebound on his behalf, thats why i didn’t want a relationship. So everything was going amazing, untill we both realised we actually were in a relationship. I think it scared him. Anyway he started working all the time an i got to see him for about an hour 2 hours a week. I knew something had changed. So i asked him he said no he was just stressed. The time came where i felt i needed to ask again and thats when it all happened. He took me for a meal and explained that he didn’t THINK he wanted to be in a relationship. He came up wi the most silly excuses like its not you its me ‘my head is all over the place. Anyway we decide to have a break this was after 3 months of being together. 4 days later i couldn’t handle not knowing where i stood. So i asked him to come to my house an we both decided to leave it and just be friends. Since then iv never wanted someone so bad. Im 19 and never thought i could feel this way about someone he’s the first thing and last thing i think about before an after sleep. I want to know how he is all the time. We do still talk but as soon as i start to talk about how i feel he doesn’t reply. I really want to get over this guy i wish i could hate him but he’s never done no wrong. I really dont know what to do. Everyone keeps saying you’ll be ok everybody feels like this and i know they do but why? After all at first i didn’t even want to be with him just wanted fun. Somebody please help. I dont know where to turn. E-mail me my addy is e160888@hotmail.co.uk x

By: Kim

Kim — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 14:42:55 +0000

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years. I am 21 and he is 23. He is in the Navy and so that mean he travels a lot. Anyways, we live about two hours away from one another, so the weekends are what we have. Well, my problem started back in August he bought e a plane ticket to go to his parents house…I have meet them a few times prior. Anyways, I found dirty text pictures in is phone of another women. I immediately make him erase them and had him tell her to stop sending him this obscene texts. Well, he bought a car while we was in PA, so we drove the car back down to FL. I had taken a week and a half off of work so I could be with him longer, but he was pushing me to go home. I was very upset, but it was always his way or the highway. Anyways when I got home he would not return my phone calls, my text, or my emails until he saw fit. That made my suspicion grow. I found out he had a my space account and I found that he had a girl on there which I have never met. Long story short…he cheated on me with her and has different women calling him. Guys, this was the man that promised me forever. I wake up every morning hurt and I always feel like I want to vomit. I just keep in the back of my head that there will come a time when Karma will turn the tables. He will get his. I just hope I am lucky enough to be around to see it. if anyone wants to talk my email is kimberlyreed2006@yahoo.com

By: Margaret

Margaret — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 13:09:00 +0000

I have a few ideas of getting over KC. Like throw his anime collection out a 100th story window. Or slugging him! He says he likes me, flirts with me, and doesn’t stop talking long enough to bloody well kiss! My best guy friend is constantly calling because he doesn’t get why I’m mad at him! And he’s constantly getting my voicemail for a month or two!! He’s enough to drive a girl to drink!

By: Adam

Adam — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 05:24:17 +0000

I’ve been reading these posts and I don’t mean to be rude, but some posters need to get a grip on reality. Everyone and I mean everyone has had there heart broken, bruised and battered more than a couple of times. You need to take the lessons from these experiences and move forward. Feelings are nothing more than a bio-chemical addiction that we have cultivated over time. Until you cut that person out of your life you will never get over them. I know its hard not to wonder what they are up to, but honestly what good does that do? All it does it reinforce those feelings of emptiness and sadness; the key is to grieve for a reasonable time and then move on.

By: lana

lana — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 22:21:59 +0000

Well i started dating this guy a few months a go.. if that. Everything was going extremley well, Id always go over to his place on the weekends and hangout with him. I had never really had a real boyfriend before and well a month or so after dating we had sex. He seemed like he always wanted to see me, wed go out and see movies or go out somewhere. I was getting ready to go over to his house one night when I showed up he brought me to his room and told me we needed to talk, so I went into his room and he told me that he was moving.. to another province. He explained that he needed to get his life in order and then asked about trying the long distant relationship. I was pretty confused and upset and we didnt really say anything for a while then he kept asking if he could take me home. Then he told me he didnt think it was going to work and that it was to hard so i started to cry, which isnt like me at all. I told him that we could try it out and that wed visit eachother also that i would move out there after graduation since hes a year older. we spent his last week here and i was heart broken when he left. He calls every now and then and sometimes i call him, we also communicate over the computer but its really hard and i dont think he feels the same way i do about him. I told him i thought i loved him and he said yeah i feel the same.. i have no idea what that means?? but im wondering if i should move on.. or if hes actually worth the money and time to visit him and the wait till schools over.

By: Michael Calise

Michael Calise — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 07:43:21 +0000

As Pathetic as it sounds I met this girl a month ago and she said that she had feelings for me and that she liked me, but it first started off her ex boyfriend was a good friend of mine who I found out she still had feelings for him but I let that slide thinking I could surpass that and get her to forget. Secondly she then tried hanging out with a friend of mine who she wanted to have a one night stand with during the period of time I was talking to her then she apoloized and me being the stupid kid I am I forgave her but tonight was the last straw. She was at her friends surpise birthday party and she invited me to go so i drove over there and i walk in and she gives me a kiss then goes and hangs with her friends.. I decide to leave because the party was a little to girly for my taste so as im in my car a friend of mine calls me to inform me that she sitting on some guys lap and kissing him for the last 30 mins so I called her and she some how flipped it on me and made me feel like i was the person who did something wrong.. and after all this im still the one who likes her and trying to get back with her after she still does these things and her excuse continues to be that she is single and I dont own her.. Does any one have any suggestions plz email me calise91@yahoo.com

By: Warren

Warren — Sat, 01 Dec 2007 02:45:25 +0000

@Haley: Haha, I’m glad it helped!

@Tiff: Hmmm, it’ll pass eventually if you it to. Just have to decide in your head to cut him out and reaaaallllyy focus on what you want.

@Chance: Well, it seems to me like you’re not sure what you want here. Your options are 1)Let her go 2)Try to get closer to her despite her boyfriend 3)Be a normal friend.

It sounds like you won’t be able to handle 3, so you’re trying 1. She’s so special to you though it seems, as you haven’t met anyone like her. The question is, do you want her as a close friend? If so, then just try to get to know her (incompatibilities on a non romantic front might develop anyway). Her relationship with you is separate from that of her boyfriend. Hey, if you two enjoy talking, then talk. If you’re going to stop talking to her because she has a boyfriend, then her value to you isn’t all that high, so it wouldn’t be really worth pursuing.

@justin: Hmmm… well… nothing you can really do if she wants to be alone. Let her be alone, and remind her you want to be with her like once every week or two. If she’s not worth waiting for, then move on.

@Meg: Who, me?! Ahhhhhhhhh lol!!