Oct
31
A week or two ago, I left off my romantic affair with a permanent friendship. However, things have not gone quite as simply as I’d imagined, as romantic feelings seem to surge up at random times on both of our parts. Following sincereness forms a lasting friendship, we’d decided to not talk to each other for 12 days until work and exams are over, so that we both have more time to study and work.
While that makes perfect, logical sense, it actually had the opposite effect. We talked for about 6 hours the day before, to “get it out of our system”. Then, two day later, we talked for 25 hours straight! I had decided that in relationships, I would let my emotions do most of the talking, and talk it did. I’ve never quite experienced anything like this before. Very interesting and intense conversations just seemed to flow out of thin air, and we both discovered a thing or two about ourselves. It was amazing how unique idea after unique idea just formed between the two of us, creating insights that either of us would’ve ever imagined before. This continued for a day or two more.
Over the weekend, I decided to go to a retreat to recoup myself from the lack of sleep and to ponder over my situation. Looking over my life, I’d never known anyone who knew me so deeply or so well. I had originally wanted to be her friend to not influence her decision, but then I realized that I was part of the information! I thought, “Since I found the right girl, why not do my best to convince her?” Such a person doesn’t come along very often - maybe even just once a lifetime. Therefore, I should present myself as best as possible as a contender for a long term relationship.
Before long, I returned home and the 12+ hour conversations resumed. Needless to say, this wasn’t exactly good for either of our health, class, or career. However, because this type of thing has never happened to me before, it seemed like an experience very much worth pursuing. We liken it to an addiction, perhaps much worse than heroine or cocaine. Everything else seems relatively trivial.
One interesting thing I’ve noticed is that a lack of sleep tends to bring out the more emotional, primitive parts of people. Generally at around 6am in the morning, we had some quarrels over stuff that isn’t quite remembered or some tender words to say to each other. It really allows us to see who the person is underneath.
I did discover some darker parts of my personality as well, such as guilt, narrow-mindedness, anger, etc. which comes from my emotional side. However, I also realized that I had a great passion and drive underneath which more than compensates for these other attributes. The trick, I think, would be to try to harness that emotional power while still maintaining logical control.
This week, she’ll be spending some of time with her boyfriend, so we’ll see how that works in terms of the connection.
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