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Getting What You Want
In How To Win Someone’s Heart, we looked at ways to secure the loyalty and trust of our fellow human beings. In this article, we’ll see how this concept applies more generally and from a more logical perspective.
Okay! We’ll get right down to it. Let’s say you’re walking around and there’s this person with something you want. Maybe it’s the $100 bill in his pocket, or maybe you want to have sex with her, or maybe you want him to vote for you. So how do you go about getting that person to give you what you want?
Well, let’s take a look at your options. You can either use force or not use force.
Option 1: Force The Other Person To Give You What You Want
In the case of the $100 bill, you would run up to the guy and rob him. In the case of the girl, you would rape her. In the case of the voting, maybe you would put a gun to the guy’s back and shoot him if he doesn’t vote for you. This is probably the most direct and the quickest way to get the object of your desire. And actually, it does work. You’ve gotten exactly what you want from this person. So what’s the problem?
Well, the problem is that you are also getting something you don’t want along with it! The guy you took the $100 bill from would probably want to kick your ass if he ever saw you again. The girl you raped would probably have you arrested and put behind bars for good. The guy who you forced to vote for you would probably kill you if he ever got a chance. That’s what happens when you take something from someone – they lose it and aren’t happy about that loss!
Beyond these problems, what are the chances of that person giving you what you want again? Do you think that guy would walk around with $100 bills sticking out of his pocket again? He probably doesn’t carry around more than $5 anymore! And that girl you raped – she probably got a big bad boyfriend named Bubba who’ll smash your head in. And that guy you put a gun to – he’s probably a black belt in some sort of martial art now and can probably take your gun and shoot you before you can say “vote for me!”
Forcing it does get you want you want, but at a very high price! It might be worth it if you are in a really desperate situation. Maybe you’re starving and need that $100 bill to buy your family food, or you are the last man on earth and that girl won’t have sex with you.
Just be aware of the price you are paying if you pick this option – it’s a one time thing, the other person will hate you and oppose you at any opportunity in the future. Whatever it is, it’d better be pretty damn important!
Is there a better way?
Option 2: Give The Other Person What They Want
Now, let’s say you are the guy with the $100 bill. A guy walks up to you and gives you a big diamond and he says, “I would really appreciate it if you could give me that $100 bill!” Wouldn’t you be much more likely to give it to him gladly? And the next time you have a $100 bill, wouldn’t you go around looking for him to see what he has to offer you?
That’s what happens when you give other people what they want! They’ll come back time and time again looking for that thing, and giving you more of what you want!
Of course, if you’re mean to them and laugh at them or something, then you’ll also be offering something they don’t want. As a result, they might go find someone else to get their needs fulfilled. For example, if you have an expensive jewelry store and you look down on a guy who comes in without a suit, that guy will probably go to another jewelry store even if you are offering better prices! Or if you give your spouse money and make them feeling like they owes you something, then they will probably go out to make their own money so that they can get away from you!
However, if you not only give it to them but you do it cheerfully, is there any reason why they would go to anyone else? When you become an indispensible source that fulfills other people’s needs, they will do whatever they can to keep you happy!
And therein likes the way to get what you want – Give other people what they want, make yourself indispensable to them, do it cheerfully, and they’ll come back again and again with what you want!
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