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Easy To Control Your Thoughts?

There are many articles on the law of attraction out there. The general idea is that the more you focus on one particular thing, the easier it is for that thing to manifest itself in reality. Well, that sounds pretty easy right? If all you need to do to get a billion dollars is to think about it, why isn’t everyone a billionaire then? While it would seem really easy to focus on one thing at a time, it’s actually surprisingly difficult to do this.

For example, maybe after you read this article, you’ll start thinking about how you can get your billion dollars. A couple of minutes pass, you fidget around in your seat a little. Hmmm, nope, can’t think of anything. Can this really work? It seems kind of stupid. Then again, that article I just read told me to keep concentrating on it, so I’ll try some more.

The Negative Thoughts

That is probably a relatively common thought process. However, even in this relatively good “I’ll keep trying” scenario, notice how much of that time is actually dedicated to thinking about the billion dollars. “Hmmm, nope, can’t think of anything. Can this really work? It seems kind of stupid. Then again, that article I just read told me to keep concentrating on it, so I’ll try some more.” – This train of thought has very little to do with the actual billion dollars, even though you’re supposedly thinking about it. In fact, you’re thinking about the opposite of getting the billion dollars – about how making a billion dollars is probably not possible!

If this is the general thought process, where an approximately equal amount of time is spent on focusing on how the thing can be done and how it can fail, it’s no wonder that attracting the things you want is hard. Your own doubts repel the very thing you are trying to attract!

Changing Your Thought Patterns

To change your thought patterns, you have to start with the confident knowledge that what you want can be done, since any doubt will result in thoughts about whether the thing you want is even possible. Luckily, this is one of easiest things to do as an INTJ since anything can be done. Things are only impossible until they’re possible! :-) It’s just a matter of finding a solution to it.

Next, you’ll need to try to think about your goal as much as possible. This is the really hard part. In the above example, the thoughts about the item in question essentially ends after that blurb about whether it’s actually possible to get it. In those instances, you have to continue thinking about it, looking for ways to obtain what you want throughout the course of the day. For example, you can look it up on google, talk to a friend, ask family members, but no matter what, you must continue to think about it as much as possible.

How Your Thoughts Become Solutions

This is how controlling your thoughts leads to what you want in my experience:
- You have some problem you need to solve
- You think about how to solve it
- Some leads comes to you, whether be it through a thought (which is what the book Think and Grow Rich talks about), other people, etc.
- You follow the leads, which generates more questions
- You think about how to solve the questions, and the process repeats itself
- Eventually all the questions are answered and you have what you want

Of course, this might just be that I’m an engineer by profession, and that’s just the way I solve all problems in my life, but there seems to be an abundance of confirmation on this in books, personal development websites, etc.

Controlling Your Thoughts With a Schedule

So the question is, how do you think about the subject as much as possible? It’s extremely easy to be distracted throughout the day. You could recieve a phone call, which will change your thoughts to the conversation at hand, or one of your thoughts can lead to thinking about another task you need to do, leading you off topic.

The method that I have found to be most effective is to create a schedule, and stick to it absolutely. During any period of time on the schedule, you may only think about the subject in question. For example, if you have scheduled reading a financial book for a period in your schedule, then you must stick to reading the book. You may not go eat, pee, sleep, accept phone calls, or anything else. This sounds extreme, but it builds your feelings so that ignoring distractions becomes second nature to you.

Doesn’t this make you extremely inflexible though? What if you’re doing something on the list and then suddenly, you had a passing thought that you can come up with a better way to do it? Well, you can simply schedule in a planning time into your schedule, as often as you feel is necessary. If you have a thought about another job that you need to do, just write it down, so that you can think about it at the next planning session, but don’t think about it now. That way, you still have quite a bit of flexibility, but once you’ve decided what to do (i.e. you’ve drawn out a plan), you do not deviate from the plan no matter what happens. This way, things get done.

There are of course pros and cons to this. What if you’re reading and your boss calls you and you’re unreachable? Sure, that’s a possibility. However, the majority of the time, the things you ignore aren’t that important, so that overall, you’ll get a lot of a extra things done. Additionally, you can adjust for these things in your plan for the next day. For example, you can schedule in a 10 minute break every 3 hours to take a walk and check your messages.

The very great thing about doing things this way is that you know what you are suppose to be doing at any given time. There have been countless times in the past when I don’t really feel like doing anything, because the stuff I should be getting done is just a jumble of random stuff in my head and I’m really sure about their urgency or what exactly they are. This kind of haze makes it very easy to turn on the TV and start watching re-runs, or surfing the internet looking for things to waste time. Think about all that thinking time that is going to waste! When you watch a re-run, you form practically no new memories and your thoughts are focused on some extremely trivial and insignificant details. When you’re done watching, there is basically nothing gained, and that time might as well have been sucked into a hole. You might as well have been dead for those couple of hours.

Yet, this is one of the most common activities people do on a regular basis!!

Hit the off button, draw up a plan, and start getting the things you want and deserve!

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15 Responses to “How to Control Your Thoughts and Get What You Want”

  1. wema7300 on August 29th, 2007 5:11 pm

    And constantly monitor your emotioal state…

  2. Basil Winston Jones on December 29th, 2008 11:40 am

    Basil Winston Jones
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    I would like like to control my anger and negative
    thoughts. How much is the cost of shipping and handling ?

  3. js on July 31st, 2009 5:04 am

    It was gud to see practical approach in this artical. I was use to do same thing but not in very focused way.
    After reading it definitely will give focus approach to me.
    Thks best Regds for this channelisation approach….

  4. Steven on September 29th, 2009 5:13 am

    A great article make loads of scene thanks

  5. Portnish on October 12th, 2009 4:48 pm

    Oh yes, very helful indeed. Your thoughts will go where you allow them and nowhere else. There is always control but the question rendered may be do you control your thoughts or do your thoughts control you? Every awnser one needs lies within themselves, only through awarness can one find what seems to be lost. In order to open ones eyes one must be aware that they are in fact closed and through that awareness one can slowly begin to open them and begin to see all that has been missed while closed. And with open eyes one can move on with the path that was always right in front of them with nothing more than a single step, that first step allows you to carry on with the motion and indeed grow with nothing more than a simple awareness.

  6. Martina on December 31st, 2009 5:11 pm

    Thank you very much for this article. I always knew in the back of my mind that it is possible to manifest a billion dollars – I just needed more information and more help to find out how and that is what led me to your article – I am most definitely going to try out what your article has said!

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    Very HElpful, Thank you very much

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  10. Edwin on April 29th, 2011 12:12 pm

    This is interesting. Thank you.

  11. Kimp on May 29th, 2011 9:11 pm

    Please remember to emphasize that there is a difference between thinking OF what you want or the thing desired and thinking FROM what you you want.

  12. jkkgd on June 14th, 2011 4:10 am


  13. olivier on July 26th, 2011 12:53 pm

    mate i really like wat u said because it also has to do with will or doing with will

  14. olivier on July 26th, 2011 12:54 pm

    really willing (action)

  15. sandra plata on September 23rd, 2011 7:02 pm

    Life is short and our time is our time. I spent most of my life believing I was less then. Letting my ex-husband and his 4th wife have control over me. I gave up on myself I took thier words and believed them. My point being is we will all recieve what we believe to be true. I am a strong, beautiful, intelligent woman. I have the highest regard for people and life. My strength comes from within, I tell you believe in yourself because you are what you think.